AUTHOR: Marty, a.k.a. canape TITLE: Because I'm not that important really DATE: 4/26/2008 12:41:00 PM ----- BODY:
So I've been thinking a lot about this blogging thing, and I've decided to stay put. Too many wonderful things have come from it, and I don't want to take everything down and start over again.

They are my words. My thoughts. Shared here because it's something that I enjoy.

Besides, Andria is right. She would just find it again anyway, and I'm not going to switch to an invitation only format. There are too many of you that I don't know who are here, and I'm glad you are.

The bottom line is that it's not my responsibility to change Wife #1, nor do I want to. She is an adult that makes her own decisions. Lovely is her daughter and she chooses to treat her however she wants to treat her.

My blog has nothing to do with that. If it weren't the blog, it would be something else. Apparently there is some deep need to know as much as she can about what is going on in our lives, and even without my words as information, she would be grilling Lovely like she is now.

There is the off chance that she isn't reading the blog (off chance meaning that Sitemeter would be a big fat liar), in which case, she is following us again. I'm sure the sheriff I talked to the first time she was following us would be happy to know if she was at it again.

I want for Lovely to have a good relationship with her mother. It is best for her that she does. Until now, I have made decisions not to attend events, answer my own phone, and other things just to try and protect Lovely from embarrassment at her mother's behavior or from the yelling she has to endure when she returns to her mother's house.

Today is when I stop doing things just to try and control an outcome at her mother's house. It doesn't work. Regardless of what I do, she is who she is, and Lovely has to learn to handle it. She loves her mother very much, and hopefully, that will be enough.

So the blog is staying put, and I'm going to go back to writing about my life. Which doesn't include Wife #1.

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----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous gail DATE:Sunday, April 27, 2008 at 7:55:00 PM EDT I'm glad. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Andria DATE:Sunday, April 27, 2008 at 8:32:00 PM EDT Good. Your space, your words, your life. It's lame that some people have to worm their way in, because they don't have a life of their own. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous texasholly DATE:Sunday, April 27, 2008 at 10:38:00 PM EDT I am glad too. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Mamma DATE:Sunday, April 27, 2008 at 11:00:00 PM EDT Phew!!! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Bubblewench DATE:Monday, April 28, 2008 at 6:45:00 AM EDT YEAH! I think that is a smart move. And you're right, she'll be that way no matter what you do.

Now I can smile today. :) ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Jessica DATE:Monday, April 28, 2008 at 5:41:00 PM EDT ::Phew:: ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Space Mom DATE:Monday, April 28, 2008 at 9:00:00 PM EDT Very glad to hear that. BTW- cyber stalking is a crime in some states. If there is a person who is not supposed to "contact" you, you can discuss this with the police. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Clifford DATE:Monday, April 28, 2008 at 9:49:00 PM EDT Let it aaallllll roll off, girlfriend. And also (my opinion only, I guess) resist the temptation to stick your nose in the air and "be the better woman." Just be. Life is too good and too short to walk around pissed off about anything.

A prescription of baseball and hotdogs for you too. Now, mister! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Cari B DATE:Tuesday, April 29, 2008 at 7:18:00 AM EDT I'm so glad... b/c I knew I prolly wouldn't be on the email invite list SEEING as you don't know me... but I've posted and I follow your blog and care about how you are doing... plus I love the pix of the baby!!

Cari B in NY ----- --------