AUTHOR: Marty, a.k.a. canape TITLE: Through a window DATE: 8/19/2007 09:47:00 PM ----- BODY:
There is a woman I know. Part of a woman that I know. As she will so clearly tell you, a blog is only a tiny window into someone's life. Lucky for me, she lets me peek into a couple of other windows as well.

Recently, I read something somewhere about how people who haven't met in real life cannot be your friends. I'm not disagreeing with that 100%, but I think it is too general of a statement. Of course I think this because of Girl.

I'm sitting here trying to think of how to convey the impact she has had in my life since January, but everything I think of to say, I end up wanting to keep to myself. Tucked into the place of my heart reserved for warm fuzzies. I don't want to share because it's little pieces of treasure. She is made up of little pieces of treasure.

When she hurts, my heart hurts. When she has a good day, I share her joy. The pictures she takes warm me through and through, and where she struggles to even call herself a photographer, I call her an artist.

There are words, sentences, paragraphs that she has written that helped me put one foot in front of the other months ago, and I don't think she knows that. Even if she did, she would never admit to anyone, including herself that it was true. So I say it here. It is true.

So when this came the other day, I sat down and cried. Just a few tears. Because it made me so happy, but it also made me miss her so very much.

She made this. For Little Bird. Who she always believed would be here, and she never stopped telling me that.

It's an important thing to a first time mom with a loss. Reminding her that there is hope. And Girl does that all to well. Then when the hope sees you through, she is there with the celebrations.

Call her what you will in my life. An internet buddy. A pen pal. A blog friend. I call her a blessing. A blessing that I will sit down with one day in person, and we'll be lucky enough to already know one another.

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----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Robin DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 2:01:00 AM EDT What a lovely thing to do.

I completely disagree that you can't become truly friends with someone you only know online. I've been posting on a message board with the same women since 1999, and you'd better believe that I count them among my closest friends. I've met a number of them over the years, and it always feels like we've known each other for years - because we have. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Mamma DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 2:34:00 AM EDT I absolutely knew you were my friend before we ever set foot in Chicago. Wasn't even a question.

I think it's you, sweet woman. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Bubblewench DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 7:24:00 AM EDT I believe I may have read that same posting about a week ago, and honestly I didn't quite agree with it either. It actually upset me a little bit.

I'm glad you found a friend here. I believe in people and that good people are good people, if it's in writing or in person, no matter what. And good people find good people.

You guys are good people. Thanks for that. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous slouchy DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 9:10:00 AM EDT Oh. Oh. So sweet.

I think online friends are as real as any other friends.

The quilt is lovely.

She must have a HUGE heart, that one. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Amy DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 10:35:00 AM EDT She's an angel, is what she is. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Liz DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 11:26:00 AM EDT What a beautiful quilt.

And a beautiful friend... ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous luannemarie DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 1:22:00 PM EDT That quilt for bird is beautiful! And Girl is a beautiful person and so are you miss thing :)
I love your writing and how you put thoughts from the heart into real words. Amazing. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Oh, The Joys DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 2:06:00 PM EDT That is the kind of gesture that restores your faith in the world. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Lisa DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 2:13:00 PM EDT I disagree with the whole "if you haven't met in real life it doesn't count" line of thought.

That is such an adoreable quilt. And I agree with mamma, "I think its You, sweet woman". Indeed! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous T with Honey DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 10:01:00 PM EDT That blanket is beautiful. Little Bird is going to love it. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Ally DATE:Monday, August 20, 2007 at 10:56:00 PM EDT That was so thoughtful.

I think it is interesting, this need of ours to define friendship in an "your in or your out" way. I haven't quite come to grips with how to categorize my blog friendships. But I know they're under the "friend" heading. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous PunditMom DATE:Tuesday, August 21, 2007 at 12:07:00 AM EDT It's really amazing, isn't it? A year ago, I would not have believed that I could have made such wonderful friendships through this medium. But I have. And it is a wonderful gift. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Jenn DATE:Tuesday, August 21, 2007 at 11:56:00 AM EDT Amen for blessings.

I've made amazing friends here, and absolutely no-one will ever be able to convince me otherwise. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous slackermommy DATE:Tuesday, August 21, 2007 at 2:19:00 PM EDT She is a blessing. The kindness of strangers and of the blogosphere never ceases to amaze me. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Jennifer, Playgroups Are No Place For Children DATE:Tuesday, August 21, 2007 at 4:12:00 PM EDT That is so very sweet. I definitely agree that you can be friends with people you haven't met in person. Since beginning my blog, I've "met" many people I consider friends, you included.

You certainly have found a true friend with Girl! ----- --------