AUTHOR: Marty, a.k.a. canape TITLE: Family friends DATE: 6/04/2008 09:15:00 AM ----- BODY:
A week from Sunday, Guy and I will have our son baptized.

My mother, who is a Presbyterian minister, will stand up in front of our church and baptize her newest grandson. I prayed a long time that she would be able to do this.

I don't have a lot of family really. The relatives that we went to visit in Georgia over Easter don't travel. I invited the cousin who is my age to come up and see us, and he proclaimed that he doesn't go north of the South Carolina border.

My daddy's brother is not too far away, but we aren't close, and I don't think he would come.

My brother and his family require two minivans and a vacation notice from God himself to get to go anywhere. Apparently, if he leaves town, the church where he works will most certainly fall completely apart. The committee structure will crumble, members will flee to the nearest Pentecostal gathering, and the church building will fall into a sinkhole that leads straight to hell.

Seriously. They won't let him ever leave. Their real pastor is a lazy pansyass, but that's a whole other story.

Guy's dad lives here. Papa, we call him. He is around just enough. Surprisingly, sometimes he isn't around as often as we would like. But, he's got his own life going on, and we are happy about that.

Guy's mom is no longer alive. He has an aunt with whom he is close, but she lives in Florida. I haven't even met her in person yet, only talked on the phone with her.

That's it. The extent of our extended family.

And that isn't enough to celebrate with us. Not in my book.

So I decided that our extended family would extend just a little farther for Bird's baptism. Not too far, just six friends who mean the world to me.

There are friends who are more like family than most of your extended family.

Those people who have answered the phone at 7:00 in the morning and listened to your hysterical cries of how your dog just got run over by a car and would you please meet me at the vet? And they did.

Those people who have told it to you straight when you needed to get your head out of your own ass and be a better friend. And hopefully I did.

Those people who stood up for you at your wedding. Or weddings.

Those people who have given you opportunities to become more than you thought possible. Who believed in your abilities and told you to go for it. And when you did? They were the first ones congratulating you on the other side.

Those people who have continued to love you through all the changes that have occurred.

These are the people who will be with us on Father's Day to baptize our son.

These are the people who will join us for a good ole traditional Southern luncheon afterwards complete with chicken salad, homemade biscuits, and Mrs. Gerber's sweet tea.

I don't make that tea for just anyone, you know.

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----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous gail DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 9:51:00 AM EDT Sometimes, family doesn't mean blood. They should be so honored as to be invited. Take photos, I will live vicariously through you. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Bubblewench DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 10:10:00 AM EDT Girl is right.. family isn't always blood..

I'm SUPER happy to hear your mom is going to be there. That makes me smile for miles!

And yes, many pictures please! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Jessica DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 10:24:00 AM EDT It seems over the past 5 years 90% of my family has passed away. You've read about it...
If it wasn't for all of you, my family, I would be without the support and love that I get on a daily basis. Girl knows what she's talking about on this one.
I love my family with all my heart and soul, and shockingly only about 10% of my family is actually related to me.
I am excited for you and Guy and so so so excited for Bird... How wonderful that his Grandmother can be the one to lift him up to the Lord, present him to the church... It's a blessing.
:) ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Hf DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 10:33:00 AM EDT You enjoy the time with you "family" How cool that he is beng baptized on Fathers day! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Candygirlflies DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 12:10:00 PM EDT "Family" most certainly can, and SHOULD, be chosen, not just related to you by blood! I am thrilled to hear you have such a lovely celebration planned.

Can't wait to see photos! I'll be thinking of you all on Father's Day.

xoxo CGF ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Bon DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 1:01:00 PM EDT i'm so happy your mum will be able to do the baptism...that's wonderful.

and family is more than blood, indeed. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous slackermommy DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 1:47:00 PM EDT I hear ya! I don't have much family either but a few good friends who are like family. Two of them are Godparents to two of my kids. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Daily Verses DATE:Wednesday, June 4, 2008 at 9:49:00 PM EDT It sounds like it will be a wonderful day. Enjoy every moment with your friends and family and that little bird. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Becki DATE:Thursday, June 5, 2008 at 3:31:00 PM EDT I'm sure it will be a beautiful ceremony - can't wait to see the pics! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Nita DATE:Saturday, June 7, 2008 at 1:22:00 PM EDT I am so happy for you. My family is every bit as extended as yours. How can you not call the friend that has been by your side for over 20 years family? And you're right, I sure did call her when I lost my beloved pet!

We have our baptism coming up in early August and we will have family and extended "family" there with us. I am so fortunate that not only will my 90 yo grandmother be there, but the pastor of our church, who was the same pastor when I was a child, will be conducting the ceremony. We are all so blessed. ----- --------