AUTHOR: Marty, a.k.a. canape
TITLE: When you're having fun . . .
DATE: 4/02/2008 03:50:00 PM
The pollen is out. I thought we were having an early spring with all this warm weather and sinus nastiness. Then I realized that it's April.
Where has the time gone? For months, it seemed like January would never get here, and now here it is April. And the taxes are due. Crap.
Next week, Guy will be in Korea. All week. Lovely will be at her mother's house. It will just be me and Christopher. And the dogs, of course. Every night this week, I've snuggled onto Guy's shoulder and waged a losing battle to fight back the tears. I don't want him to go.
Not only will I miss him, but I'm terrified of doing this baby thing alone. When it's 11:00 PM and Bird hasn't had a nap longer than 20 minutes all day but is still refusing to go to sleep? It's Guy that can get him snoozing. We have a bathtime routine that we do all three of us together every night. He gets up with the dogs in the morning and feeds them. He takes Bird while I clean up dinner and feed the dogs at night.
We have our thing. I don't know what I'm going to do without our thing.
Like pumping. Christopher somehow knows when I'm pumping and will pitch a royal fit until I stop. It doesn't matter if he just nursed. It doesn't matter if he's asleep. Somehow, it always happens that I can't pump unless someone else is watching him.
I need Guy. Or, you could just say that I really really want Guy around. Korea is not exactly around.
If anyone would like to come hang out with me next week, you are more than welcome. I'm not nearly the basketcase in person that I am when I write. Well, maybe I am. But you're still here, so I can't be that bad.
Labels: Bird, Guy and Me, My Life
DATE:Wednesday, April 2, 2008 at 5:46:00 PM EDT
You're not so bad at all. ;) I wish I was closeby!
DATE:Wednesday, April 2, 2008 at 5:58:00 PM EDT
Sweetiepie, you know I'd come there and help out if I possibly could!! But I'm here on the other end of the email hotline if you need me!
This happened to ME with my first baby, too... My husband moved to Toronto to start a new job when Child Number One was just ten days old. I thought I'd go berzerk, because I couldn't fly out to join him until she was four weeks old. It was TERRIFYING.
But... do you know what? It took a day or two, but somehow, that wee babe and I figured out our own little routine. We managed!! It wasn't the same, but we became this incredible little "team", and we did it. And I gained some pretty incredible confidence, which was something I REALLY needed to do!!
It's scary right now, Canape, but you and Christopher are going to be a great little team, too. I just know it.
DATE:Wednesday, April 2, 2008 at 6:27:00 PM EDT
I know what you mean but maybe this will be your finest hour....or hours! You're doing such a great job, from everything I've read, and maybe this time that Guy will be away will make you shine even brighter. It will probably be hard but you know what you're doing and you're doing it great.
DATE:Wednesday, April 2, 2008 at 7:18:00 PM EDT
It took me a loooooong time to not freak out every time my husband left me alone with the kid(s) for more than a day. Somehow you will make it through. Try not to obsess over the littler things, and try to get a break when you can.
If I could come help you, I would. It's gotta be more fun there than here with three demanding pre-adolescents all day. :)
DATE:Wednesday, April 2, 2008 at 8:09:00 PM EDT
I'm available to hang out next week.
DATE:Wednesday, April 2, 2008 at 9:55:00 PM EDT
Good luck, you can do it alone and you will surprise yourself at how well you do. Guy will come home to a wife who missed him terribly, but got done what she had to do.
I think men have an instinct in them that must come from birth, if there is a breast out of its clothing anywhere around they know it.
DATE:Thursday, April 3, 2008 at 11:37:00 AM EDT
Girlfriend. I have seen you pissed off a time or twenty, but never skeered. I don't believe it mister!
DATE:Thursday, April 3, 2008 at 1:55:00 PM EDT
If I had more notice, I would so have taken a few days off and come to see you.. Now I'm really bummed.
YOu will do fine. You are an amazing woman and a becoming an even more amazing mother. I'm sure it won't all be fun & games, but you'll be ok. I know.
DATE:Thursday, April 3, 2008 at 4:08:00 PM EDT
I so wish I could, but I can hardly get through the day without falling asleep as it is. And I still have 2 weeks of radiation to go.
Hang out in May, if not before?
DATE:Thursday, April 3, 2008 at 10:19:00 PM EDT
I'd so be there if I lived closer. I really would. You will get through this, though. Somehow I've had enough strength every time I've faced an impossible parenting task like the one you're dreading. I know you'll have the strength, too. But I hear you, it's good to have a "thing" with your hubby.
DATE:Sunday, April 6, 2008 at 7:03:00 PM EDT
I'd come play, but you started with that crazy Carolina pollen talk...