AUTHOR: Marty, a.k.a. canape
TITLE: Not even cohesive enough for a post title
DATE: 1/10/2008 10:11:00 PM
I am so boring. Baby baby baby. If I could think about something else to write about, I would. Just when I think I have though, Bird gives me a good deep dig into my ribs and reminds me that I am supposed to be obsessed right about now.
Doctor visit today. Lost a pound and a half. Declined the cervix check again - would rather be surprised if something is happening now. Bird is still head down and squirmy. My lovely NMD ladies tell me that the weight loss is indicative of something about to happen. Interesting.
It at least inspired me to finish boxing up the Christmas stuff that had just made its way into the guest bedroom. I need a new tub. Even after all the stuff I got rid of this year, I still need a new tub. Dang.
Guy is singing the blues now. Not because he is blue though. Just because he got a new Robben Ford book. I love to listen to him.
Haven't heard back from the photographer yet. I emailed him today. Told him how disappointed I was, but that we would like to try again. Tried to be very diplomatic about it. We'll see.
Alright. Time to give Canape a little advice.
Papa wants to get Bird a cradle. We have a moses basket, so I'm wondering if all we really need is a stand for it. Papa really wants Bird to have Guy's cradle, but that's a whole other ridiculous story. I feel sure that Guy will have the things back from his childhood one day anyway, but it's not worth the trouble right now. So he has come up with this idea of buying a new cradle.
The thing is, I don't want him to think we don't appreciate what he wants to do for the baby. I just don't want him spending a bunch of money on something we don't really need. On the other hand, if it's what he wants to do, who am I to stop him from doing it?
There is a balance I think in letting people do something for you because it makes them feel good, and stopping them from doing something because it is not necessary. I don't know what that balance is. Is the gift to make him happy? Or do we let him know that we appreciate it but don't really need it?
Thoughts? Opinions? Weigh in here for me. What would you do? Let him buy an expensive cradle or ask him to just get a stand for the moses basket?
Labels: Baby Lust, Random Thoughts, Try Try Again
DATE:Thursday, January 10, 2008 at 11:06:00 PM EST
Ooh, ooh! I'm getting so excited!!!
What if you tell him that you just don't know what you're going to need, but that you appreciate that he wants to do something so maybe you all can revisit it a couple of weeks after the baby arrives?
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 6:32:00 AM EST
I would tell him how much you would love the cradle but don't have a need for it and it would be so special and amazing for little bird if he would get the stand. And that everytime you used it you would think of him.
But that's me.
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 10:01:00 AM EST
I'm a super sentimental type, so even when I don't want/need/like things that are given to me, I still always keep them b/c it means so much to me that they're from that person. And yes, that means I have a bunch of never-worn clothes in my closet...but it warms my heart whenever I look at them and remember that someone thought specifically of me when they bought them.
Probably no a good strategy when you're about to bring a new kiddo into the mix, but thought I'd share my two cents.
Read you all the time, love, love your blog - all the best to you, Canape!
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 11:10:00 AM EST
Ah, let him give it to you.
You could always have one in the bedroom and one in the livingroom/den...whatever you have...
It will make him happy.
You'll see (As I didn't) that if you let the family do these things for you, your life will be easier...
But that's my opinion...and I'm a little weird.
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 11:53:00 AM EST
I think if it's that important to Papa, then let him buy it. It sucks that Bird can't use Guy's old cradle; especially since it IS Guy's.
My ex-boyfriend kept some of my things from my childhood. Not because he liked them, but out of spite. I'm sure he's thrown those priceless things away, and it upsets me that because of his petty behavior, my kids can't see and appreciate those things. Gah. Exes. Anyway, off my soapbox...
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 12:39:00 PM EST
De-lurking to say I've had the same problems. We got a double stroller from my hubby's grandparents for Christmas, and the sucker is so ginormous we'll never use it. Yet it's still blocking half of our foyer (we don't know where else to put it). Of course, every other stupid, pointless gift we've gotten has ended up being a godsend. Sometimes you just don't know what you'll end up using. I would suggest you try telling him that you don't think you would use it, and if he insists on buying one anyway, accept it graciously. If you use it, great, and if you don't, someone else can benefit from it when you sell it back to a consignment shop in a few months.
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 1:47:00 PM EST
I would tell him what you just told us. If he feels he is giving you a future heirloom - something to pass down thru all your children - he'll buy the cradle. Otherwise, he may buy the stand, or something else entirely.
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 4:08:00 PM EST
You know what? I'd let him buy you the cradle... mostly because 2/3 of my girlies HATED the Moses Basket!!
Each baby has his or her own likes and dislikes. It will be nice for you to have a few options, just in case Bird decides to be picky about where he wants to sleep!
And, you could try using the basket downstairs during the day, and keep the cradle upstairs for night-time use, as another commenter has said.
I love that "Papa" wants to do something special for your baby... It would be a "gift" for him to be given that pleasure!!
Counting the days along with you, Canape-- I ab-so-lute-ly CANNOT WAIT!!
love and ((hugs)),
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 6:06:00 PM EST
You are totally supposed to be obsessed right now. We really don't mind!
And I agree with bubblewench.
AUTHOR: No Minimom
DATE:Friday, January 11, 2008 at 6:52:00 PM EST
Is there something else that you need more? I would just be honest and say "We are so blown away by your generosity, but we don't really need a cradle. If you really want to get something nice for the Bird, a (insert other item here) would be wonderful!"
DATE:Saturday, January 12, 2008 at 9:04:00 PM EST
You're gonna be baby obsessed for a long time sweetie! And it's totally OK!!
I would personally let him buy the cradle because then you have a back up in case you need something other than the Moses basket!
AUTHOR: Laura McIntyre
DATE:Sunday, January 13, 2008 at 2:17:00 AM EST
We just had a moses basket and never felt the need for more, but i guess if it would make him happy
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