AUTHOR: Marty, a.k.a. canape TITLE: Floored DATE: 11/03/2007 04:34:00 PM ----- BODY:
I am hoping that what I was not able to express with my face and mouth today will come through with my fingers.

There is a group of women who are my friends. From California to Colorado to Chicago. From Texas to South Carolina to West Virginia to D.C and more. We share a common ground. We share support, stories, and pictures. Who am I kidding? We share just about everything.

I spend a little time with them almost everyday. The days I don't get to check in on them, I find that I think about them and wonder how they are. What their little ones are doing. How their house or job hunting is going. If that cold has moved on. If that baby has come yet.

There is a certain part of a friendship that you miss out on when you are long distance. I don't think though, that it means it is any less of a friendship. I don't usually distinguish in conversation between my "in real life" friends and my "long distance" friends anymore. Friendship is based in communication, and that is what this group of women does. We communicate.

Today, two of these friends were in my neck of the woods. LA had a birthday this week and was coming to celebrate with her brother who lives just a few miles from me. Jenn was just passing through and made it work so that we could all have lunch and celebrate LA's birthday together.

So I thought.

After a yummy lunch at a local pharmacy with a cute cafe attached to it, we went back to LA's brother's home for some cake. Cake for a birthday is perfectly logical. Behind me, Jenn is bringing out gift bags. Obviously, our friends had gotten together to give LA some birthday partying even across the miles.

So I thought.

Some times, I'm slow.

They were baby gift bags. And they were for Bird. And me. And Guy.

And this was a shower. A baby shower that my friends put together across the entire country and attended by two of the closest ones. I couldn't speak. Well, beyond asking for a tissue, I couldn't speak.

The gifts were amazing. There were things from our registry, things that they had picked out just for Bird, and things that they had made.

There were three group projects. A bag full of onesies that each of them had decorated with either bird themes or music themes. A quilt with squares from each of the seamstresses, and quilted out in California before making its way back here. And a scrapbook that only requires I add photos. They know me well, and know of my complete lack of scrapbooking skills (by the way, Kimmie, Lovely totally designed your page for Bubbles).

And even though it was only the three of us there "in real life," I haven't felt so surrounded by love and support in a very long time. Maybe ever.

That they would go to such lengths to help me celebrate this new little life?

I can only say that I am completely floored.


And more grateful than I can find the words to say.

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----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Andria DATE:Saturday, November 3, 2007 at 6:17:00 PM EDT Ok, I had to edit my comment. Don't try to talk to your hubby about finances while typing a comment on a blog, all while wondering if you are finally going in labor. Here we go again...

Hooray! We pulled it off! I had so much fun sneaking around behind your back. :D You are loved bunches, Canape. You, that hubby, and those beautiful kids. You mean so much to us all! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Candygirlflies DATE:Saturday, November 3, 2007 at 8:28:00 PM EDT Canape, I was SO honoured and pleased to be invited to join in this secret project with all of your friends... You are SO lucky to be surrounded by such a tremendous (and organized!!) group of women.

It has been so exciting to "watch" all of this unfold... I'm just so thrilled that it went off without a hitch!!

Blessings to you, Guy, Lovely and Baby Bird. We all love you so much, and wish you every happiness in the world.

xo CGF ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Stella DATE:Saturday, November 3, 2007 at 8:34:00 PM EDT What a WONDERFUL surprise and such wonderful friends! Congrats!! You and Bird and Guy are so very loved!! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Bon DATE:Saturday, November 3, 2007 at 8:58:00 PM EDT that is giving me little chills of happiness, Canape...the kindness of people, and the realness of friendship whether online or face to face...i am so pleased you & Guy & Little Bird got showered. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Magpie DATE:Saturday, November 3, 2007 at 10:08:00 PM EDT So sweet - lovely post. Nice people. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Karaoke Diva DATE:Saturday, November 3, 2007 at 11:24:00 PM EDT I'm so so glad you liked it! I really wish we all could have been there, but Jenn and LA gave us the next best things with their pictures. I'm so happy that you are so happy! You are such a sweet and wonderful person and you deserve all the happiness in the world! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous WhyMommy DATE:Saturday, November 3, 2007 at 11:24:00 PM EDT I am so happy that this happened for you!

Love you -- ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Liz DATE:Sunday, November 4, 2007 at 12:02:00 AM EDT OMG! It happened already? I am such a slack...but holy cow!
When I first knew this was all going down, I cried just thinking of the love surrounding you and Guy and Bird and Lovely. I was so honored to be invited (evidently, so honored that I dropped the ball. Completely. Sorry.)
That we live in a world where this can happen for someone so wonderful and special and beautiful as you...
I'm thrilled that this was pulled off with such aplomb! And I cannot wait to see the goods!
You are so loved, Canape. You rub that baby belly for me, please.
Happy surprise baby shower day! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous FENICLE DATE:Sunday, November 4, 2007 at 12:04:00 AM EDT That is totally nice!!!! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Steph DATE:Sunday, November 4, 2007 at 1:55:00 AM EDT You are WONDERFUL! Of course we would celebrate you and Bird and Guy!! :) Im so glad you were surprised. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Jenn- NMD DATE:Sunday, November 4, 2007 at 12:44:00 PM EST It was a thrill to be a part of this from start to finish. I only wish one of us had won the lottery so we could get plane tickets for those at a distance.

Your post made me tear pass that box of tissues my way.

You are such a lovely person. IRL a total knock-out! :) You, Guy, Lovey and Bird totaly deserved it!

We need to get together soon...I owe you lunch! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous labugga DATE:Sunday, November 4, 2007 at 7:40:00 PM EST I cried when I read this last night, so I had to wait to post.

You have no idea how much of a pleasure it was to play a role in doing this for you.

And I'm kind of teary again, so I'll just leave it at this--you're wonderful and you deserve every bit of it and so much more. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Kathy's Surprise Party DATE:Sunday, November 4, 2007 at 10:43:00 PM EST Oh shoot! I am so lame! I have my page for your scrapbook and didn't get it in the mail to LA in time. I've been a bit crazy with baby. I'm so so happy you were happy. These wonderful women that asked me to join (sorry I let you down ladies)made me sortof feel humbled and floored when they too, when they asked me to join. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Redneck Mommy DATE:Monday, November 5, 2007 at 11:28:00 AM EST How wonderful.

Congratulations. I'm so glad to hear the Little Bird and you are in such wonderful hands. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Bubblewench DATE:Monday, November 5, 2007 at 2:03:00 PM EST That gave me happy goosebumps. That totally rocks. I am so glad they did that!! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous KimmieRo DATE:Monday, November 5, 2007 at 2:40:00 PM EST I only wish that I could have done more. You, Guy, Lovely and Bird are so loved by so many.

You tell that lovely Lovely that I LOVE the page (you tell you that too).

I believe pictures of said book are required... ;) ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous slackermommy DATE:Monday, November 5, 2007 at 2:56:00 PM EST I have goose bumps. That is so sweet. Great girlfriends are such a blessing. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Amy DATE:Monday, November 5, 2007 at 3:09:00 PM EST We love you and that little Bird growing inside of you. I was honored to be a part of it.

Of course, I screwed up my onesie so I just had to send regular gifts. But I tried! It was a really cute "Here comes treble" shirt. Oh well. Just imagine it in your head. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous gail DATE:Monday, November 5, 2007 at 3:12:00 PM EST I wish I could have done more.... ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Melain DATE:Monday, November 5, 2007 at 4:20:00 PM EST I enjoyed scrolling through your blog today. Thanks for the entertaining trip through your mind. :) ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Ally DATE:Tuesday, November 6, 2007 at 5:26:00 PM EST This is so great. What a fun and loving thing to do for you. I agree about what you said about defining friendship differently these days and it being all about communication. ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Heather, Queen of Shake Shake DATE:Tuesday, November 6, 2007 at 6:58:00 PM EST Ohmygosh, that is the best story! I am so thrilled for you!

You are blessed to have such great friends.

Yay! ----- COMMENT: AUTHOR:Anonymous Mandy DATE:Thursday, November 15, 2007 at 11:35:00 AM EST I was thrilled to be a part of it! We totally heart you and wanted you to know it. XOXO

Mandy ----- --------